He currently does not have a job or claims to be in between jobs. You will see this pretty often unfortunately. I do not care what you do for a living. He lives with his parents. This one I have mixed feelings about. Go use that money to buy a house! This also will tell you that this BOY is probably spoiled and if you do start something with him, he will expect you to cook, clean, do his laundry and wait on him hand and foot like his mama is obviously doing.
He lives with multiple guys. I seriously never even thought twice about this being an issue. In most cases this is a sure fire sign that he has had some sort of driving issue; he either had a DUI, a suspended license, or something shady.
His profile consists of all selfies or group shots. There are two extremes here. You will find a profile that is literally all selfies or all group shots. He avoids making plans. There is a huge issue with meeting people online. But when it seems like the guy has come up with every excuse in the book to not meet up, RUN.
He consistently talks about his ex. Exes are a HUGE part of your life. A quarter of my life had been spent with my ex. So there are stories and things that are not independent of that relationship.
We all work well most of us. But it takes seconds out of your day to respond to a text or send a text. Guys post pictures of chicks kissing them, draped around them, etc. I get messages from these guys all the time. Story goes like this: After some teeth pulling, you get a picture.
If this guy is not looking good in either of these things, then he is most certainly not looking good in jeans and a t-shirt. He tries to make plans last minute. He had plans with someone else and they fell through — fine — that happens. He never picks up the check. A gentleman is always going to offer to foot the bill at least the first time. You need to be a lady and offer to pay, share it or leave the tip. He wants to exchange numbers immediately. Some of my friends who have been doing the online dating thing might disagree with me on this.
I actually had one guy tell me that Tinder was draining his data plan so if we wanted to continue talking we had to text. But please there are other resources for networking, dating sites are not the place to promote your business. He invites himself to your place. He invites you to his place prematurely. Refer back to the booty call. He wants you in his bed and has no interest in more than that.
His profile is blank or poorly written. Sometimes a profile is blank because they just joined. Other times you have these vain, shallow guys who are relying purely on their looks to get people to talk to them. I mean if you know grammar is not your strong suit, have someone proofread it. A guy I dated had every story in the book as to why he was unreachable for days or weeks or months at a time and I fell for them every single time.
One day I might actually put them all together into their own post — yes there are that many! Hopeless romantic still, sadly yes. If someone cares for you, they are going to make an effort to get in touch with you — brief text, quick phone call, whatever it is. When someone goes MIA, especially consistently, come to terms with it and move on.
I wish I had.