Well, both me and my HTB are divorcees, difference is I have a kid from my past marriage, aged 7 and he has none. The first day we got to know each other, we both came clean with each other.
Of course my parents didnt disapprove him, like they did my past bfs, cos he was clearly different, responsible, trustworthy, etc etc. But his side, his parents could not accept me cos I come with a package buy 1 get 1 free! They didnt mind me being a divorcee but the fact bout the kid troubled them. They became judgemental that since I got preggy at a young age, Im immoral, cheap, bla bla. But HTB knew, understood and stood by me strongly. Even after 5yrs now, he holds his stand whereas his parents dont approve of me.
He told them straight that it's his life and he's gonna live it his way. Not to mention he is a filial son to them, not the disrespectful, rebellious sort. He never swayed from his duties and roles as a filial son before but in my case, he stands firm. I am really lucky I should say.
When it comes to my son and HTB, they clicked very well from initial stages. I was not one to introduce my child to all my bfs and let them get to me through him but I got close enough with HTB to get him involved with my family. Today, my entire family calls HTB if they need help, favours, his presence, good and bad days! Son and HTB are like family, only weird thing is son's so used to calling him uncle over the years that it's weird when we go out and he calls me Mummy and HTB uncle.
He treats him closer than my own family now and is learning to address him as Daddy. HTB wise, he's looking forward to marriage with me since years ago, just like I am. He says his past marriage cannot be compared with what we have, he has never compared any ex before with me and what we have is what we share specially.
The only thing that pricks me is his parents' disapproval of me.. I want them to be present at our wedding and HTB is trying his best to convince them and making them accept me and be present as he knows how sensitive and sentimental I am about it. But I know that even if they strongly chose not to come, HTB will not let go..