Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick pics that most women, unfortunately, receive. But searching for Mr. In terms of looks, I prefer taller guys. They view me as exotic, a kink, something new to try.
But I finally reached my limit when one of my dates bumped into someone he knew when we were together. His silence told me exactly how much I meant to him. After realizing that I deserved so much better and was wasting my time with these guys, I stopped giving them attention. These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness. One guy in particular seemed to really like me. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates.
Then poof, he was gone. After a couple of minutes, I got a text from him while waiting alone at our table that said he had to leave because my transgender status was giving him anxiety. After that, I stopped chasing guys who were too concerned about their feelings to even think about mine. While most people only consider the profile pic before swiping right or left, for me, the text on my profile is crucial.
I get plenty of matches on Tinder, but within 24 hours around half of them un-match or block me after reading my profile. Screenshot courtesy of Janelle Villapando However, I recently went on a date with a guy who was tall, handsome, funny and had his shit relatively together.
We met in the late afternoon and enjoyed our frozen yogurt in perfect patio weather. It was going really well! At the end of the date, our first kiss quickly turned into a handsy make out session in the backseat of my car. He started yelling that I never told him. I responded saying it was all over my OkCupid profile, which it turns out he never read. I sat in the back seat of my car in complete shock. In that moment, I was mostly concerned about my safety.
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone. When I got back into the front seat to drive home, I still felt uneasy.
Once I got out of the area I started processing what had happened. I knew that it was all going too well for him to even be interested in me. Plus, what if the perfect guy slides into my DM, right?