I thought I would reach out to see if you could give me some insight or thoughts on a situation I have found myself in. We got together recently and last weekend we met up for a little weekend getaway first time seeing each other since January.
It was a great weekend, very smooth, intimate, not uneasy or awkward in any way. He is an introvert. In some ways I believe and feel he is an outgoing introvert — but definitely an introvert — he has even mentioned and talked about this to me. I like this about him however I have found myself wondering about how he feels or where he sees this going since we have not had a defining talk about that.
So my question and purpose for reaching out to you is… how do I know if this is something that he wants to continue to explore… long distance being a huge factor. I have read countless articles all saying that introverted men are slow in their time and it takes patience for them to show how they feel….
I suppose all I really want to find out is if there is some sort of a potential commitment? Understanding who you are can help wire you for being happier and what you need in a partner. I really like the free test over at 16 Personalities , an incredibly well put together website that will give you powerful results. You can share the link with your sweetie and ask him to take it too.
This will allow you to learn more about each other, giving you each insight on how you tick, how you see life, and how you are likely to deal with the inevitable stresses life tosses at you. Introverts do not own the market on being shy and extroverts are not the only outgoing folks. Both types have learned to deal with social situations and may come across as shy when they are actually an extrovert or outgoing when they are just a friendly introvert.
Being an introvert over an extrovert is about two main factors: The first is energy. An introverted person gains energy by being alone or in intimate one-on-one situations. So, he needs sleep, to revert into his cave, or simply kick back and play his favorite video game. An extroverted person gains energy being with others. Sure, they need some quiet time and solid sleep, but going to a party or a noisy restaurant fuels their energy cells.
After coming home from being around lots of others, they find themselves wired and it may take some time to chill. The second factor that determines whether a person is an introvert or extrovert is how they process their thoughts.
The introvert typically thinks things through before speaking. This is why they may come across as shy, but in all honesty, they are playing conversations through their own mind before saying them out loud. The extrovert needs to talk things through in order to get clear on what they think. Introvert or extrovert, though, no one likes feeling pressured. The fear that you would spend too much of your time on this guy if he really had no interest in a possible future.
And the fact of the matter is, my dear, nothing in life is certain. That said, when you ask about the future , do it in a loving and open way. As I mentioned, no one likes to feel pressured. Remember that as an introvert, he may need a little time to think about how he feels. To be bold, feel sexy and reclaim your confidence. Find out how you can do just that by clicking here now. Your heart is longing to follow your desires. Create Your Best Year Yet: Connect with Debra on Facebook and Twitter.