Let me start with screaming that real loud. This article is all about stereotypes. But never the less, this is an article about the general behavior of men from popular tribes in Nigeria and their dating habits. You know as women, we love to talk.
We talk about everything, from clothes, to money, to food. Dating someone from the same tribe as you are would be very familiar. This is because you guys pretty much have the same culture, meaning same school of thought, same understanding, same mannerisms and mostly likely very similar cultural upbringing. Seeing as Nigerians are a tad bit tribalist, inter-tribal dating is something of a new phenomenon that only boomed in the last decade.
I heard about a lot of girls having misunderstandings, severe fights and even break-ups, because they had culture shock when they decided to step out of the security of their tribe. Well this article is for the lovely ladies that are done checking out men from their own tribe and need a little heads up before they dabble with dating a different one. Hausa If you are the kind of lady that loves that very comfortable life, then you should get involved with a Hausa man.
The educated and exposed ones though. They usually tend to be very sweet, caring and loving. This is mostly because of their belief and customs. If he is buying himself a new phone, he would get one for you too.
If he buying a new car, yup, you guessed it, you get one too. The only downside to dating a Hausa man is that you have to be willing to share and play nicely. Their belief also permits them to marry more than one wife. Igbo In this culture, the only way to show your wealth is through your wife and children.
You would most likely find an Igbo man that gives his wife the bigger car to drive and his kids would always be in the best schools and have the best clothes. If you are intellectual or skillful, you are in luck with the Igbos. They themselves are very industrious. They are hustlers and go-getters. Dating a focused Igbo man, you can be sure that he would school you and upgrade you. This is because they are business people, they are generally attracted to hardworking business minded women.
These men like to be in control. They always have to be in charge. You got to be submissive… period. Yourba Yourba guys are fun, fun, fun. They know how to treat themselves. If you date a Yoruba guy you would have enormous fun with them. They are very smart too, so you can always expect some kind of intellectual conversation on with them. They are well read and very learned. They get jobs pretty early right after school usually in the government or educational sector and they marry quite young too.
You would have a ball being with them. On the flip-side, they love women. Believe me, this happens. So date at your own discretion. If you got that thick skin or you are cool with emotional abuse, by all means dive in. Another downside of dating the Yoruba guy is that because they normally stay in the public sector for work, they retire and live on pension. Then you are in the right tribe. Benue So you have the Benue guys. This tribe is really awesome to date. This is because when they love you, they love hard.
They would treat you like a royal exotic princess that came from the far away land of Zamunda. They would love you almost to the point of worship. They would literally bend over backwards financially, physically and emotionally to make you happy.
They love to see their Queen happy because it gives them fulfillment. As compared to a few of the other Nigerian tribes like the Yoruba and Igbo the Benue population is not really known for being culturally exposed or the brightest in academics.
With that being said, this is the only explanation I can use to the reason why they have such tendencies to irrational insecurities. They make up for their insecurities by becoming successful businessmen. Almost like doctor Jekyll and Mr Hyde. But if your the kind that gets a kick out of the rides, you would handle well the ups and downs that come with dating a Benue guy.
Like I said, inter-tribal dating is something that is relatively new in Nigeria. But, with these few major ones I do know about, I hope I have eased the transition for those ready to step outside of their comfort zone and dabble with loving a different tribe. The aim of this article was not to bash any particular tribe but just to reduce heartbreak and culture shock for my lovely sisters out there.