How Soon Is Too Soon? It's just that, [from] everyone that I know that is dating, it just seems, well I want flowers; I don't want to text.
What does that make me? What kind of dinosaur am I? Which brings us to a very important point. Even Jennifer Garner -- Hollywood star, Golden Globe winner, face of Capital One and Neutrogena -- is freaked out about getting back into the dating game after her divorce.
In short, it's totally normal to feel apprehensive. On the other hand, you might feel to feel like it's time to jump back on the horse. Only one question remains -- are you really ready? What kind of things are you telling yourself about dating? Why would they be interested in me?
If the thought of going on a date is interrupting your everyday life, it's a sign you're not ready. After all, you might be talking the talk, but are you actually putting your money where your mouth is?
Or are you still in self-protective mode where you don't want to leave the house? Take the time and make it about you. Build up your confidence and resilience again.
Focus on the things you really like about yourself. If you do feel like you're ready go start dating again, Schilling says there are a couple of things you can do to prepare.
The first of which being how to relay your 'divorce story. Plus it's not attractive. People who have been married for 30 to 40 years and are coming out the other side may need to upskill themselves on the digital world of dating. The fact is, it is the new reality. It's not an inappropriate or rude thing to do.
I think there's a bit of re-education that needs to happen there. Always come back to yourself. What will happen is they will go on a coffee date at the same time -- though obviously with different people and in different places, and then meet up afterwards to debrief.