A wee year-old when I gave birth to my now year-old-daughter. Her father skedaddled, and there I was alone, with a 6-week-old baby. You could imagine how difficult it was to meet someone my age. You're cute, lets hang out after class. How about Friday night? My mom will have the baby.
Running and panting noises Me: Not all single mothers had to navigate the dating world in their early twenties. Shortly after, I was talking on the phone with a mom friend who was going through a divorce, and she was also worried that now that she has three kids, no one will want to date her. This saddens my heart, because single mothers are awesome, powerhouses, forces of nature. Who else can stay up all night feeding a screaming human with food they made from their own body?
Then turn around and do it again all morning, afternoon, late evening, night, early morning, morning with no breaks and all while working a full time job! Now that we have children, we are wiser. We have seen things. And we can see through people.
There are some major advantages to dating after you make little people. And thank the lord they do. Gone are the days of navigating 20 potential companions because half of them were bored when they signed up for JDate.
Real men will be honest with their intentions with you. Because you are a single mother, you just saved yourself a whole ton of hassle and confusion. And you are not about to waste precious babysitter money on a dud.
You are on a budget and you are on a time limit. Pick me up on time, take me somewhere close and make me laugh. And I need one! As a single mom, you can see straight through people.
It takes one -— maybe even a hello. This makes dating way easier. He is fun to hang out with, and he gives you fun adult time when you need it -- totally cool. Now that you are a single mom, you know when there is potential for something serious and when you just want to have fun and relax. There is no pressure to get married and have kids. Because guess what, you already have kids and marriage sucked. You now can enjoy just enjoying. Do you like me like I like you?
From what I hear, dating is difficult whether you have kids or not. But dating is also fun. And as a single mom, you need that. Single moms are incredible. Not just anyone can spend the entire night stripping the entire house due to a lice outbreak at the school and get up at 5 am to make lunches.
Anyone would be lucky to capture your attention, even for just a moment.