Well, it most certainly is and while many of us are already locked up been married 18 years last December , there are thousands of black women single and having fun in the dating game. While many are enjoying their natural hair journey and dating with no issues about hair, some women are seeing a change in their dating pool and find their hair is the reason.
I find nothing negative about it, but there are some women facing dating challenges as they rock natural curls, coils and kinks. I even had a natural hit me up last week with a question about her own concerns.
I did the Big Chop last summer and when I wore weaves I got all the attention. Now, not so much. I prefer wearing my hair short and curly. What can I do? First off, hey girl, I see you and welcome to the natural hair club! You can boldly rock your natural TWA, straighten it or you can try the many other styles out there including wigs, weaves or braids. Personally, I say rock your hair as you want and not even worry about it but I understand you need some solutions.
Hey, we all have a type and you may be blind to the new attention you are receiving. Case in point, check out below: Many women have found they get more attention from non-black men now that they are natural. This point goes along with the previous point as to why you may be feeling less love your way.
We are seeing more black women dating outside of their race and many of them are rocking those natural tresses. Just be open to suitors that may be quite different from your norm. Unfortunately, we are dealing with self-hatred in some of our own people. But to wear a weave or straighten your hair for a man is not a good idea as you should never feel the need to alter your body for anyone!
Now, willing to change it up to appease your mate many women get asked to rock straight hair sometimes is another thing entirely and really up to the natural to decide. Never base your self-worth off of others. Trying something like clip ins, crochet braids or the endless braided hairstyles available can protect your hair while giving you a new look. I urge you not to use this as a means to get more attention though. Use it for you and not for anyone else and be leery of anyone only hitting on you because you are rocking a weave.
Do what makes you happy and that includes how you prefer to wear your hair. That is the bottom line. You will be dating again or dating more and you do not or should not have to change your hair to impress anyone. There are men out there who will love your natural hair and how you care for yourself.
I wanted to share why some women may be experiencing a lull in their dating life in regards to their natural hair. Have you had any issues dating now that you have natural hair?