It's a question I'm often asked, and the answer really depends on two factors: How good the rebound relationship is; and how attached the person is to their ex. Rebound relationships can often help people stop missing their exes. When a person starts dating someone new, their success in having found another appealing person to date can help them feel better about their romantic prospects.
And if the rebound relationship is with a rewarding, high-quality partner, then that partner can gradually replace the ex in their lives. Basically, our emotional and attachment needs are hydraulic: The more we rely on one individual to meet these needs e. So how long will a rebound last? It really depends on whether the rebound relationship is better than the relationship that was left behind. How likely is it that someone will go back to an ex after a rebound?
The answer to this question is a bit more complicated. People usually break up for a reason, and so the chances of getting back together with an ex depend on whether the issues that led to the breakup have been resolved. New rewarding dating experiences can help to lower attachment to an ex-partner, making it less likely that the person will want to get back with their ex.
Exciting new dating prospects can trump past worn-out relationships and help people get over their exes so they can better focus on their new, more compatible partners.
On the other hand, when people fail to connect with new partners, it can make them long powerfully for the familiarity of an ex, particularly if they found the ex to be deeply rewarding in the past. Under these circumstances, people sometimes do decide to give their old flame another go—assuming the ex is also willing, of course. If you're the ex in this situation, what does all this mean for you? Outside of trying to improve on your own relationship with your ex, all you can really do is wait and see—but do so patiently.
Remember, you want to look good next to your competition —and good sportsmanship is attractive. Are you questioning whether your relationship is right for you? Focusing on someone new helps anxiously attached individuals let go of ex-partners. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 35, Current relationship quality and emotional attachment to ex-partners. Social Psychological and Personality Science.