November 17, Last Updated: So if your online dating message conversations always seem to end up going nowhere then this is going to be great for you because we going to discuss some easy tactics the making sure that your messages get replied to, as well as a couple of top tips to keep that conversation flowing. If you open with a first online dating message that is cheesy or sleazy then you will probably end up deleted along with other message conversation starters just like yours.
Go for something original. Never paste the same generic message to everyone you want to contact on the dating site, and never be flirtatious, keep sexual innuendo away from all your dating conversations unless the other person, mainly the lady, initiates it. Stick to easy conversation message topics One of the big problems is getting into a dating conversation that goes too far too fast. Find an easy topic and stick to it. Or stick to something more general that you can then be more specific with after you have found out a bit more about what they are interested in.
Keep it non-personal and try not to stir strong personal viewpoints. If the conversation gets to detail that can become convoluted and go off in multiple directions, making it difficult to keep up with and respond to, especially if you are chatting to other people on the dating site the same time. Keep your online conversation short and to the point Always make sure that your dating messages are short and to the point. Take responsibility, answer and ask Often, especially the ladies unfortunately, people are guilty of simply not asking questions.
If only one person is asking all the questions, they are making all the running with the conversation and it becomes hard work for them. Something that kills online dating conversations quickly is when the other person gives up. How long should you keep the conversation going before asking for a first date? As a general rule of thumb, we have found that if you have not arranged a meeting within seven days of starting to chat with someone, averaging two or three messages a day within your message conversation, then you are going to run out of steam pretty quickly.
You have to build momentum. Alternatively, if you keep the conversation going too long, one or both of you can get bored, arrange to meet somebody else, get sidetracked by real life, or you can start to develop ideas about their character and personality from their online persona which are not actually real, which can be very damaging for when you do meet. Write down interesting things to say to help the conversation keep going If you are really interested in somebody on a dating website, then make some notes on your phone if you think of something to ask them.
Think of other things you can ask or chat about before you start talking to them, that way you will have lots of ideas rather than sitting there panicking about what you are going to type in a message to that person, and then ending up sending them a message that you regret.
Sometimes people panic when they are trying to keep an online dating conversation going and they end up sending rubbish to somebody, or they offend them unintentionally, or the other person becomes confused, or even worse, they realise you are struggling and think you have no interest in them.