And each of these companies have their own unique way of going about it, knowing about each is crucial. To be absolutely clear; I am not being paid by ANY of these companies. I have plundered oh I mean researched all the interwebs has to offer on this subject AND by adding feedback from coaching clients, I have created a super short cheat sheet for you all.
In alphabetical order; Bumble. What makes Bumble unique, is that it is a female led and driven dating app. Women often feel uncomfortable on male-centric dating platforms, however, what makes Bumble unique is its female-first initiative. After two users match by mutual right-swipe, in order to start conversing, the woman must reach out to the male.
If she does not initiate conversation in 24 hours, the match will disappear. PRO; Women have to make the first move, which means far less random and sometimes incredibly inappropriate first time messages from users that have been so problematic on other apps PRO; Rates very high on quality of people who are members, as one may imagine, the women and men who join Bumble, whose marketing campaign is VERY clear about the female led interaction, creates a filter right from inception.
PRO; The option to add all your various social media handles makes it easier to verify if a match is a real human, and not some cyborg, a self-proclaimed prince looking to transfer money into your account or an internet troll.
Being newer, the volume of members is lower than the competition 1 million. You get a photo, age, location, job title and education history and MAYBE a brief bio, if they have added it. And yes, physical appearance is important however…real love and lasting love, is based on way more than that! CON; No user led filtering system outside of Age, location and male or female, Bumble offers little in the way to narrow down the options, including what TYPE of connection a user is looking for… love?
But hey, you CAN always make that first move, assert your goddess, and ask! I would recommend this as a secondary app for sure. But not necessarily as your one and only venture into online dating. This site makes each user take a fairly lengthy psychometric test and compatibility questionnaire upon joining, then uses that to send you matches they think are a good fit, based on personality. I can tell you I definitely needed that element.
They also often run specials for woman to join for less and charge men more, again filtering out people who are not really committed to finding real love. PRO; Lots of Behavior and future desire filtering. Want a partner who can keep up at the pub every weekend? There is a box for that.
Tick box for that too. Want someone who has kids? CON; Does not offer same sex matching. They did release a separate site for same sex singles in due to a court ruling, ahem , compatiblepartners. However reports are that site are not great due the algorithms still using heterosexual data to find matches. There is a fair amount of stigma since Eharmony was resistant to offering same sex matching due to the founders Christian beliefs. CON; They send you matches.
You cannot search through users and choose who to message. You can choose to not message matches you are sent.
Physical attribute filtering is very limited. The high price tag, the long questionnaire aspect really weeds out A LOT out of the jungle. This is a dating app dedicated to LTR and LTR only, which if you are tired of dating guys who are not really looking for a relationship, is a huge plus. Everyone I have coached has reported that the dates they went out on from this site were at the very least enjoyable and a real eye opener. Even if there was no spark, the personality matching was spot on so the dates were fun, convo was good and they left discovering more positive traits in a partner to add to their search list then negative ones.
Many, even fell madly in love. With tens of millions of members from very diverse backgrounds, Match. PRO; Easy of use, join, fill out your profile and some pics and off you go. So you get the benefit of some financial weeding but a lower price point then some other paid sites.
PRO Serves both heterosexual and homosexual community looking for love. CON; Any algorithms used are scrubbing the personally written profile alone, so no behind the scenes, in their head, maths. You can filter like a boss, however that does not stop someone who is just looking for fun from contacting you.
CON; You can search and pick. For SOME of you, looks can be deceiving and you fall prey to it every time. Really spend some time sorting out you, your wants, needs and desires before engaging with Match. Who you choose, how you choose and filtering like a boss lady is crucial in this particular arena! I have met and coached couples who found each other on Match. Easy to use and even some filtering and matching algorithms at work.
PRO; Extremely participation driven. The more you use it, the more your profile gets bumped up, matches are made etc.. PRO; Fairly easy to use with a clean interface. CON; Advertising on the website — because the site is mostly free, they make most of their money through ads. CON; Participation is the key in all aspects of the site - for example, if you turn on anonymous viewing of profiles for your account, you cannot view who has looked at your profile.
The more you use it the more your profile gets bumped up, this can be a pro or a con. It is designed for variety of singles on the site actively looking for friendship, casual dating, and serious relationships. PRO; Good filter options. Starting most importantly with what type of relationship you are seeking. That stops the just here for a good timers from leading you down the path a bit.
Profiles are chock full of info from income to children and loads in-between. POF offers a chemistry predictor questionnaire and matching. PRO; Loads of extras for free as well. Additional phycology based questionnaires, option to leave testimonials about people and them for you and the option to delete them! Opinion; There is really very little bad to report about Plenty of Fish. It is arguably one of the best free sites out there and I would definitely recommend taking some time to fill out a detailed profile, tick lots of boxes and take it for a test drive.
It currently has over 40 million active members. It is free but is launching a paid subscription based service as well soon, details TBA. Set up of Tinder is easy, with no real profile set up to speak of as it pulls your facebook profile, allowing you to delete images as needed.
PRO; Free and easy to use. PRO; Good woman to man averages. For every 4 women on Tinder there are reportedly 6 men. PRO; Tinder reports they are working on making the app more accessible and user friendly for transgender and no gender identifiers. If that comes to fruition, it will be a huge PRO for this community! So no narrowing down the search field beyond that is possible. There are literally instragram accounts dedicated to Tinder horror stories.
Mostly unsolicited dick pics galore and really abusive trolling by men and woman when someone is not responsive or not giving the response they desire. Again, looking with our eyes alone is never the best way to seek out love. Opinion; I am not a fan. And all those things CAN and DO happen on other sites, but seemingly at least, nowhere near as often. I hope this helps you navigate the often murky waters of choosing an online dating site and that your quest for love hottens up, real quick! Wanna know a secret?
I often recommend clients come off certain dating apps, if they are willing, till we have had time to get absolute clarity on what they are looking for, boost the confidence way up and work on building some real self-worth. In life, in shopping AND in love! Zoosk and Badoo are just two that could have easily made it onto this list and maybe next time will! Have I missed a dating site you need to know about? A site you love or hate?
Come over to my FB page and post a question or tweet me; and I will get right on that!