In a haze of hormones and alcohol, groups of male and female college students meet at a frat party, a bar, or hanging out in a dorm room, and then hook up for an evening of sex first, questions later. Hooking Up is an intimate look It happens every weekend: Hooking Up is an intimate look at how and why college students get together, what hooking up means to them, and why it has replaced dating on college campuses.
In surprisingly frank interviews, students reveal the circumstances that have led to the rise of the booty call and the death of dinner-and-a-movie.
Whether it is an expression of postfeminist independence or a form of youthful rebellion, hooking up has become the only game in town on many campuses. In Hooking Up, Kathleen A. Bogle argues that college life itself promotes casual relationships among students on campus. The book sheds light on everything from the differences in what young men and women want from a hook up to why freshmen girls are more likely to hook up than their upper-class sisters and the effects this period has on the sexual and romantic relationships of both men and women after college.
Breaking through many misconceptions about casual sex on college campuses, Hooking Up is the first book to understand the new sexual culture on its own terms, with vivid real-life stories of young men and women as they navigate the newest sexual revolution.
Bogle bases her research in personal interviews with 76 students on two campuses. This gives her research a very personal and anecdotal touch. She does a great job identifying attitudes and motivations among the students, and supporting her conclusions from specific interviews with students.
Two things about Bogle's research really surprised me: Most students aren't really participating in the hooking up scen This is a very interesting study about how college students do relationships on campus. Most students aren't really participating in the hooking up scene on campus.
Rather, there is simply a perception that this practice is universal. This perception is exaggerated in the press and campus community but is not based in fact. Yet, most students would likely comment that they don't know of any other students who are still virgins. Once students graduate, they tend to return to a more traditional dating style of relationships. Hooking up is generally viewed as temporary and even somewhat immature one student mentioned in an interview that he would never, ever have a long-term relationship with a woman who had sex with him on the first date.
I was encouraged by the tremendous opportunities for the Good News about Jesus Christ in this culture. Students are broken and unfulfilled, looking for something more. Rather than running away and trying to avoid the secular college campus, Christians should be embracing the opportunities to reach people with the transforming Christ.
I also found great pity for those participating in the hookup scene, who think to find satisfaction there. There is simply no comparison to the joys of marital sexual love. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to know about the current secular campus culture and about what sex and relationships really look like there. However, I would offer one warning: She does not restrain or censor any of her research or interviews.