HARD I tell ya! The landscape has changed, but it is still worth your trouble to get cute, dressed up and hopeful to find the love of your life. But, like me, you do not have any life to waste on the wrong one cues list of past loves we wish we had not …. So what do you need to know to do this thing, i. Let me help you. Here are my 10 things you must know when dating as a single mom. Your kids come first Sis, I am the first to wish you well, but as you begin dating as a single mom, let your new beau know that family time is important to you.
Now, yes you will need to cut the apron strings and get to know your new suitor, but … he needs to know in no uncertain terms that them babies of yours come first. So, get to know your new bae, enjoy him, but take care of home and make sure the kiddos are set, too. I am not advising you to say all of this on the first date or give the brother a hard time. You can always find a man.
Enjoy this season and choose knowing that you and your babies are a package deal. Take some time to get to know what you want and be crazy enough to expect it. You are not for everyone. Keep your energy about men in the right place. Know that a good man will come and expect it. The man you seek exists but he also needs to find the woman he is looking for. Spend this season of singleness preparing for the love you seek by living a life you love … right. Click To Tweet 4. You should be enjoying your life.
Let me tell you that being single does not stop my flow. Listen, Boaz will find me living and loving and not in a corner waiting on him.
Be found living sis. Your kids deserve to see a mom who loves the life she has and is chasing every dream God has given her.
You want this thang to move into courting and so you must be willing let some folks go who are just not what you know you ultimately desire. Before he can get to the next level with you, he has to pass through your hopefully strict standards. You know what you want. Unless you have time to repeat the past, do yourself a favor and vet the men you date. Click To Tweet 6. Honey, you deserve a good love.
So, while you are dating keep in mind your worth and you will attract some who will value it. This is a marathon. Dating is an application process. Remember, you are the prize. Take your time Again, this is not a swift race. You want the man for YOU. Take your time, pay attention to what you are attracting, and be still enough to be honest with yourself about whether it is truly what you want.
Take your time when dating. Everything is excellent in the beginning. But, we all know it can change. Dating is your process. You have so much power. Please know who you are and what you want in a man first. Sure, you learned something and you lived.
But, to get what you want in a man, you have to first know what that is. Contrary to popular movies, music, and radio, experimenting with everybody is NOT a strategy. Now, do I know it all?
But, in my almost 40 years and 14 as a single mom, I have paid attention and been the go to source for married and single folks to get sound advice. My faith guides me these days and I refuse to rely on my own desires and rush into something that I know is ultimately not going to serve me.
Are you there yet? Have a seat and get to know you. Write down your wants and deal breakers. Now, a woman on a mission will have many suitors at once. I said entertain, chat, date. You need to see how these folks behave in season and out. In the end, you will do the picking. Be upfront and honest about what you want. Tell him what you want and mean it. Click To Tweet Tell him what you want early on and mean it This is the place where we as women lose so much ground.
So, do the work listed above and be confident in this next season of your life. You will find a love deserving of you when you know what you deserve and act like it. Her mission is to teach single moms to parent, thrive, and win using practical tips and strategy gleaned from her 14 years of experience.