You need to stand out. Usually, that means herself. This also shows that you took the time to actually read her profile which is a step a lot of lazy guys skip. In my experience this is best done with a question. Ideally one that ties into a common interest but that is really just a bonus. Your subject line would simply be for example: She is almost guaranteed to at least read your message if only to find out if she actually knows you.
There is no magic bullet here. This is where you want to continue connecting with her as well as telling her why you are messaging her. You want her to hear, smell, feel, taste, and see what you are talking about. Be careful to only include positive shared interests. You are not going to get a response if you start off a message by saying for example: Now you you want to tell an interesting story tied to one of the interests you just mentioned. If one of your shared passions is scuba diving you could say: Fourteen days of diving in crystal clear waters having adventures in the local countryside.
In the first sentence you are showing that you are an interesting guy that is fun to be around. In the second you are painting the picture of a life that she would like to be a part of.
Now that you have demonstrated why you are messaging her you can briefly mention a few of your strongest characteristics to really get her hooked. If you can demonstrate confidence early when messaging an older women you will have better results. This is where you give a little and take a little.
In this example it was from a woman who said she was great at ping pong: It is very easy to take a message the wrong way, even one that follows a first message online dating formula. You need to find the right balance and it can take a little practice before you find it. Call to action This is where you seal it. You want her to get motivated to actually send you a message back. My favorite line was: She is on that site to meet someone great and that just might be you.
Now that you have given her every reason to reply you tell her exactly what you want her to do. If you can get her to take the big step of messaging you back your odds have already increased tremendously. I knew that would get your attention! I read through your profile and we seem to share a love of adventure, the feel of sand in our toes, and the taste of an authentic french croissant. I just got back from a life changing two week scuba retreat in Belize.
I think we would have a lot of fun together even if you are going to be mopey the whole night after I kick your butt in ping pong. Message women when they are more likely to be online.
If you see she was last online at 8: You want to be at the very top of her inbox when she logs in. Again I want to reiterate that this is a general first message online dating formula and should be tailored to your needs and experience. The first message is only one part of the equation that includes your profile and your photos.
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