Tweet The Himalayan Times Some of our readers are dead against teens dating, while others think that it just cannot be prohibited because parents want to. Hence, they suggest that teens should be told about the consequences and dangers of risky behaviour while on dates.
They opine parents should handle teens and their relationships with much care, understanding and openness Graphics: This love adds richness and happiness to our lives.
It makes us feel important, understood and secure. It provides us with a chance to discover our own-selves as we share it with someone new. Love and romance teach us self-respect as well as to respect others. Therefore, teen romance should not be discouraged but we have to draw some lines. The only rational thing that they ought to do is to focus on their career and make their life meaningful by pursuing the purpose for which they were sent here on Earth.
Each of us has a specific purpose and power of making our dreams come true lies within. However, we can see many youth indulging in romantic relationship where breakups, matchups are common. So, sacrificing a beautiful life just for a romantic relationship is a blunder.
Instead, they should focus on their career, how they can perform their best in everything they do. However, being in a romantic relationship at such a young age is not rational. Teenagers should not be allowed to date as there are more disadvantages in teenage love relationship than advantages. I have seen many teenagers blindly fall in love and then face the consequences later. This sometimes leads to wrong activities and decisions.
So, parents have to act more responsibly when their children reach teenage. If their children are found to be in a secret relationship, they should have a talk with them and show them the right path. Parents should motivate children to focus more on their future than on love relationships. Teenagers themselves should try to control their emotions and thoughts for love relationship as far as possible.
I think it is all right if it is within boundaries. They should be allowed to date so that they get to know everything better. The world is changing, so we all have to change our thoughts with the changing scenario. We cannot solely blame the age or time for how they feel. Nowadays, we teenagers are surrounded by television, movies, social media et cetera which I believe are causes for these problems. Moreover, parents must be aware about their children.
They should encourage their children for creative response while providing enough time to them. Children can be handled if they are suggested with love and care. In fact, children seek more care and affection in this age. So, parents should play a leading role.
They get involved in romance but belief of many Nepali guardians are rooted in old culture. So, they refrain their child from being in a relationship. They think about their dignity and honour in society and think their child is too young to be in love. They are also afraid of their child being involving in activities like sex.
Teenagers should maintain friendly relationships, but not romantic. Of course they can date so they will be good friends and can choose a good life partner when they are capable of in the future gaining experience of good and bad relation.
Teenage dating and their relationship should not be discouraged but sexual attraction must be discouraged. Parents should handle it in a friendly manner.
This is not our way. Having a life partner is a psychological need, but waiting for the right time is what makes everything perfect. In addition, opting to date instead of studies will mislead one from the journey of life. This is why parents fear when their children date neglecting their money invested on their studies. There is more to love and romance. So, one should not take a hasty step to start a relationship. Of course teens get curious about romance because they watch romantic movies, read romantic novels so on.
So, the best way to handle teen romance is by keeping them engaged. In a nutshell, studies come first over such a relationship.
They want to be like a movie star or a great rock star. Being in a romantic relationship is one of the things which most teenagers desire to be in. Teenage is also the most crucial age where people should take rational decisions in term of their career or right choices to achieve their dreams. Relationships might hinder them from achieving the dreams. So, relationship is a thing to be avoided at teenage.
But the world is different to a teenager. If they really want to be in a romantic relationship they should look at its consequences too. Physical relationship, lack of concentration, blackmails from romantic relationship are a great hindrance. We all are rational enough to look at the pros and cons of a relationship. If being in a relationship matters to a teenager, elders probably should be informed and limits must be set! At this adolescence period, one is naturally attracted to the opposite sex.
Moreover, media like TV, Internet, films add to it and ready teenagers for romance and dating. In the Nepali society, there is generation gap. Elders ignore physical growth of their teenage children and its changes as well as needs. Many parents are not aware about this fact. Meanwhile, most teachers, parents and elders who know these realities are enslaved to their past traditions and want to impose the same restrictions on their children.
Ignoring the changes and realities of time have given many sorrowful episodes of suicides, accidents, fights and and so on. However, teenagers today are far ahead of the limitation of romance and dating. They know fruitful romance and dating.
Therefore, fruitful romance and friendly dates should not be discouraged. Even a couple of decades ago, girls and boys had separate gangs. Now teenagers are not only unhesitatingly sleeping with their partners, many are just having sex with friends or acquaintances for mere fun! The disease of cervical cancer and AIDS are on a rise, thereby breaking the backbone of society.
It is high time guardians and teachers convince the teen-agers to concentrate more on studies and career for their bright future.
There will be ample time for romance and date in later stages of life. Many lives of teens are permanently changed and subjected to greater responsibilities of a family, having children at tender age while studies become more difficult to pursue and frustrations. That can happen because of a small mistake of dating. However, dating is not a dreadful activity as many think so. It is certainly a sensitive stage activity which can twist the path of life.
Therefore, teens must be adequately educated to understand the real meaning and purpose of dating. How do you think one can handle it? It is actually neither very simple nor extraordinarily difficult. It is a matter of information and knowledge about the consequences of their activities. When they are aware about what to do at this stage, they can handle it quite easily.
One cannot completely stop dating in teens. This is tough work for parents and schools. Therefore, making them aware and educating them about possible consequences of dating may help. Also, teens must be helped to understand the safe way of dating so that their future is not obscured due to some irresponsible situations. At this age, one can fall in love or go on dates. As one of the most important stages in life, one has to prepare oneself for future life.
We like to talk about love and all its myriad glories. We want to experience new relationships. Contrary to this pop culture 10 years ago, we used to live a different kind of life. Marriage was mostly arranged and gender equality was unheard of.
As time passed, culture, society, rules and everything else have changed. I believe we have to keep up with the time and change ourselves. Sure parents are concerned that we may end up with the wrong person and that is fine.
If so, they should talk openly with their children about these issues. They should draw a line on what things their children can do and cannot. However, discouraging dating altogether is not an option. Teens often go through the unacceptable horror of reality which they rather like to neglect.