Online dating is nothing new, and while some straight people might hesitate to post their personals on the internet for fear of stigma, almost every lesbian I know has at some point gone online to find lurve or at least sex. It just makes sense; gay-dar has limitations, lesbian nights can feel far and feel between, and meeting a girl organically can feel impossible as a gay woman.
Perfect to bicycle through the door. Last week I created a dating profile on each of these sites, and rating apps geared or accepting of lesbians based on three criteria: Like all of these apps, getting starting with OkCupid is quick and simple.
Regular members can filter potentials based on a variety of criteria, which allows you to cast your net as wide or narrow as you like. Some of the best include: The biggest free dating app in America, OkCupid combines a wide array of filters, detailed profiles, and arguably the largest density of LGBTQ women to choose from. I, and most gay women I know, have at some point s used OkCupid to go upon date after awkward date in hopes of maybe meeting someone worth waxing sweet nothings upon.
One downside of everyone being on OkCupid is everyone will know you are on OkCupid. Proceed with caution, but do proceed. Unfortunately, form comes at the the price of function. Tinder is basically a flip book of people vaguely connected to you on Facebook. What about that one? Unfortunately, Tinder operates under the oppressive, hetero-normative assumption that that person will be of the opposite sex.
Out of morbid curiosity, I created a Tinder account linked to one of my straight guy friends facebook, and surprise surprise: Tinder treats LGBTQ users as second class users because it views LGBTQ sexualities as second class sexualities; we are not the norm and therefore not worthy of even the most basic of consideration.
Virtually nothing offends me, but being treated as if my sexual orientation is irrelevant offends me. In addition to sharing the name of unlikable female television characters everywhere, Brenda struggles with style and utility. Underneath a depressing palate of cheap lavender and dreary grey, Brenda does really seem like a sweet, well meaning application. I am way too shallow for Brenda.
Brenda can boast the awesome honor of being the only lesbian dating app in the app store. I would like to put as much distance between access to my lady-bits and men as possible, even on the internet. Other features Brenda boasts include: IM like its Filter by age range and…. Brief self description area d. Capacity to upload up to five pictures Experience: One thing I love about Brenda is the girls online.
Dattch I cannot rate Dattch the lesbian dating app because I cannot download Dattch the lesbian dating app. I searched high and low in the app store but alas, Dattch eludes me now as much as it eluded me the day Trish told me to download Dattch.
Whatever the reason, Dattch hella snubbed me and I will not forget the insult. Even if they do have a super cute website.
So which app bodes best for women who like women? And the winner is…. OkCupid not only has far more lezzers, it has features for days, addictive quizes, in- depth profiles, and an incredibly detailed search criteria.