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Many sites continue to surface guys as potential mates, despite setting your preferences otherwise. This, of course, is not true. If you're reading this, it's probably because you've experienced the frustration with dating sites and apps that claim to be inclusive to all sexual orientations, only to realize that some closeted quirks make it obvious that the straights are the target. We're here to help you out.
Our top picks for lesbians: The fact that it's made by queer women for queer women is a breath of fresh air, and knowing that men showing up is next to impossible is so nice. Not only can you find local matches that you never knew existed, but you can also get involved in local LGBTQ events, read LGBTQ news, and make friends through its social-media like feed.
You can obviously find dates, but the lack of pressure to hook up or find a girlfriend is super inviting. Our pick for the best mainstream app is OkCupid: Okay, we're totally biased because of their sweet ad campaigns how can you not be?
The site's in-depth questions and matching strategies push for lasting connections, and being one of the first dating sites ever, its trusted name brings along a massive lesbian following and tons of options. A good number of lesbian dating sites and apps do exist, but most face the same issues: They're either made to sexualize lesbians and aren't really for relationships at all, or it's way too easy for guys to sign up and pretend to be women.
Creeps are drawn to porn-ish names like Pink Flirt and Pink Couch, so if you're wondering why we left most of the so-called female only apps out, that's why. Obviously, there will be some discrepancies between apps that are specifically for queer women and mainstream apps that have options for queer women, but are open to straight people and men as well.
We've picked out the best from each category and give an overall consensus of what they're good for, because dating apps are clearly not a one-size-fits-all thing. Remember that all can be used to find serious relationships, and all can be used to find hookups. We're just saying what they're best for. Language is inclusive, they aren't advertised to be like the typical male fantasy, and they'll help you widen your dating pool beyond the circles you already know IRL.
Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all sexual orientations — so why are they still giving you male matches when you've specified you only want women?
Swiping through all of that is way too much work, and it shouldn't have to be like that. Claiming to the be the app that "introduces you to every lesbian you've ever wanted to meet," HER is the award-winning mix of dating and social media that lets you meet girls you know are girls, as it requires a Facebook for signup and is solely for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women.
It was also created by queer women, for queer women, which is glorious. HER has a minimalist layout that encourages users to, you know, talk to each other rather than just creeping. While more intense dating sites will have you fill out a huge questionnaire, HER only asks for the bare minimum so that if you want to find out more about a person, you'll have to ask.
Instead of seeing one profile at a time and swiping, you'll be shown a collage of nearby women and can start playing from there. But don't worry, they give tips for that. We totally encourage you to read Sheets' whole story. Aside from the obvious reason that it's one of the only dating apps specifically for lesbians and queer women without being some gross sexualized thing? Requiring Facebook to register solves one of the main issues that comes along with online dating as a lesbian: Desperate men posing as women, attempting to do Eliminating fake and scammer profiles that often pop up on hookup apps gives a heightened sense of security, and makes HER much more inviting to women who may have shied away before.
Even if you're not looking for a relationship, HER is just a great place to make friends in your area if you are at capacity with straight friends. Another refreshing aspect is that HER is so much more than a hookup app, and doesn't even put on the pressure to find a romantic partner. We have seen a few women mention that HER's reputation for being a "relationship app" has gotten so overbearing that it feels like your feed is just full of women complaining about being single.
But this is probably dependent on your location, and we think that the good totally outweighs the bad here. HER is free to download and there are no in-app purchases.