The country has a long way to go in terms of racial discourse, period. In the case of interracial dating, there are still huge stereotypes, misconceptions, and presumptions about what it means to date someone with a different race.
Below are some of things you should keep in mind when it comes to interracial relationships: These are the images we see most in the media -- cis white men with black women, or cis black men with white women. But we should bear in mind that there are all kinds of couplings in the interracial dating world that aren't acknowledged nearly as much, and that interracial can mean a black woman with an Asian man.
Sometimes, interracial couples may not even "look" like interracial couples -- some multiracial people can read as "racially ambiguous," or be mistaken for a certain race or ethnicity that they don't identify with.
All these kinds of pairings come with a wholly different context and meaning, as do interracial couplings between people who aren't heterosexual or cis. A broadened idea of what constitutes an interracial relationship also broadens the discussion. It's Not Just About Sex Many questions some people in interracial relationships receive hinge on sex.
Are black girls freakier than white girls? Are Asian girls more submissive? Who has the bigger penis, black men or Latino men? These kinds of questions only perpetuate racial stereotypes regardless of whether they're "positive" or not and turn the idea of interracial dating into a kind of experiment or phase. While sex can be an important component of many people's relationships, it shouldn't be viewed as the primary motivation for any committed relationship, interracial or otherwise.
As such, fetishization and sexualization in interracial relationships is wrong. Seeking out a relationship with Asian women because they're supposedly submissive or black women because they're "freaks," in bed is not cool. Notice that all of these stereotypes are sexualized, turning people into objects and ideas. Admiring the differences in a partner who is of a different race is fine.
Turning those differences into things to be compartmentalized and sexualized? Well, while dating outside of your race might demonstrate that you are open-minded, at the end of the day, interracial relationships won't necessarily "solve" racism. In fact, it's encouraged. Of course, there are instances where issues of self-acceptance may be at play, but this is not a hard and fast rule. No, black men and women who date or marry white partners especially after being with black people in the past are not necessarily doing so for status or validation.
There are a lot of reasons why people are attracted to other people. If a black person dates someone outside of their race, their "blackness" -- and how they feel about it -- should not automatically be called into question. Which is to say, questions like "What will your parents think?
Projecting expectations about what individual couples experience rather than allowing them to show and tell does nothing to move the conversation forward.
These couples are revolutionary by simply just being. Let interracial couples decide what being in an interracial relationship means to them. There's Always Something New To Learn The beauty in interracial relationships, and all relationships in general, is the opportunity to learn and grow from someone who might come from a different background and a different perspective for you. The colorblind approach of not seeing a partner's race and understanding how that affects the way they navigate in a relationship isn't the right way to go about it.