By Pepper Schwartz The exciting part of dating again after age 50 is that the relationship can take any shape you want. Nevertheless, you still may need help navigating the dating and relationship world.
Check out useful tips on writing an awesome online profile, and be inspired by ideas for inexpensive dates. Always keep a warm, friendly tone in your writing. Instead of just saying you love to travel, for example, talk about a specific trip. Be honest, or it will undermine you later.
Talk about an award you received, a great job, something you shine at. Remember, this is a bit like a job interview, and you have to sound better than other applicants! If you have a good sense of humor, use it. Then someone will want to share it. Some men and women split the bill, but if the man or woman is traditional about who pays, dating can become very pricey for the guy.
Here are a few ideas for inexpensive dates to consider: Search the city for great food trucks. Finding them is fun, and the food is always reasonably priced. Go to new wineries and get free tastings. Join your local film society and go to free or cheap screenings of movies. Check the websites of local institutions for free or inexpensive music, theater, dance, and lectures. Do something outdoors to preserve nature. Join a conservation crew for a day: Participate in trail cleanup or other environmental group activities.
Attend dog shows, horse shows, or agricultural shows. Go to your local poetry society, library, or bookstore and listen to free readings from visiting authors. Do something a little quirky and fun. Experience the everyday majesty of nature.
Get up very early and watch the sun rise, and enjoy a nice breakfast afterward. Rent the first season or more of a great TV series or miniseries, and make your own popcorn. Baking is particularly fun and sensual because the aroma is tantalizing long before you actually get your first bite. Depending on your values, it can be a momentous occasion or just a pleasure-seeking experience. It helps to have some thoughts about how to make that first sex the successful prelude to an ongoing intimate relationship.
Here are a few pointers that can help you make your first sex with your partner great: Precede sex with conversation and approach the experience with intention so that you can be prepared nice underwear, lubrication, pills, and so on. Talk about health before you get physically intimate. Plan safer sex with condoms.
You show your concern for yourself and your partner by using protection against any sexually transmitted diseases. As your relationship deepens and becomes more erotic, talk about what having sex means to you: Is it a declaration of love, like, or just attraction? Make sure you and your partner are on the same page.
Even if your feelings are intense, take it slow before and during sex. Communication and caring are actually more likely to make this time memorable than technique or endurance. Ask what your partner likes and how he or she wants to be touched. Take the guesswork out of it. Say nice, complimentary things. Make your partner feel attractive, desired, and respected. If you help your partner feel confident about your desire and admiration, your partner is more likely to feel sexy, uninhibited, and connected to you — and that means sex is more likely to be great!
You may have good reasons for not being able to sleep over, but staying is nicer. And having breakfast together in the morning is romantic.